All Poems, Family, Loss, Parents, Politics, Prose/memoir

What Would my Father Say this Memorial Day?

My thoughts drift to my father on many occasions.

His birthday, yahrzeit.

Father’s Day, wedding anniversary.

Certainly, Memorial Day.

Designated to honor generations of veterans.

Sacrificing life and limb for our nation.

My father flew a B-24 during World War II.

Helping to liberate France.

Defeat Hitler.

End the Holocaust.

Maintain freedom against fascism, autocracy.

Allowing his children to grow up believing in democracy.

In certain inalienable rights.

Each person, equal.

No person above the law.

Life, liberty, pursuit of happiness.

What would my father say today?

If he could see democracy at risk?

Threats to abandon established governmental norms?

Like peaceful transfer of power?

Corruption in the Supreme Court?

A presidential candidate indicted on eighty-eight felony counts?

Overturn of Roe v Wade?

Rampant anti-Semitism?

What would my father say?

To officials conspiring to steal elections?

Undermine the balance of power?

Disadvantage swaths of voters?

Demand loyalty to party over Constitution?

What would my father say to me, my siblings?

Would he rail and holler?

Roll his eyes, shrug?

This man, whose parents fled Russia.

To rear family without fear, in safety.

From persecution, pogroms.

What would my father say?

For his wise words, I yearn.

I suppose I’ll never hear them.

It’s time I take my turn.

 

Lynn Benjamin

May 27, 2024

Yahrzeit is the anniversary of the death of a loved one.

 

All Poems, Emotions, Family, Humor, Pleasure, Prose/memoir, Spouses, Stories

Tickling Conversation

It was a conversation tickling me inside.

Making me open my mouth, giggle.

In short bursts.

Listening to Bob make a pronouncement.

I’m making an executive decision, he said with solemnity.

Referring to some old packages of farro.

Deciding to toss them into the trash.

I paid attention, amused.

Wasn’t he the guy who didn’t part with things?

Kept berries in the freezer for years?

Disregarded expiration dates on pill bottles?

Making sure there was not one last use for something?

Now talking about farro?

Telling me whole grains could go rancid?

Excellent decision, I agreed, laughing again.

Enjoying the little peals escaping in waves.

Feeling lighter with each one.

Hands rising as though filled with helium.

Lips curling upwards at the corners.

A delight I was wishing

would never cease.

Would go on forever,

only increase.

 

Lynn Benjamin

May 9, 2024

All Poems, Birthdays, Cousins, Friendship, Homages, Prose/memoir, Thank-You

Lessons from My Cousin (To Aaron on your 80th)

 

Aaron, do you know how much you’ve taught me?

Giving me lessons for many of your eighty years?

Twenty-nine thousand, two hundred twenty days?

My cousin from the country.

Only son of Cel and Lee.

Brother to three sisters.

Husband, father.

Only five years older than I.

Though, when small, age gap, enormous.

You, a strapping teen.

While I, a child.

Through the years, you instructed me.

First, at camp, to float.

A feat failed by others.

Only accomplished by you.

Because I trusted you.

Then continuing to educate me from a distance.

Mentoring from afar.

Transmitting lessons.

How a gentle man acts.

Relates to family, wife, girls.

Values engagement.

With relatives, friends, colleagues.

Stays in touch.

Purveys news.

Displays curiosity about roots.

Takes time to make a genealogy.

Invites others to contribute.

Updating, sharing it.

Writes a memoir.

So others can understand.

Your background, context.

Offering a peek into you early life on the farm, at camp.

Honors the nation.

Making it a goal to visit each state in the union.

While your children, young.

Admires other cultures, customs, mores.

Seeking adventures in many countries.

Makes friends everywhere.

Recognizes limitations.

Still travels, though alternating two destinations.

Keeps physically fit.

Participating in, organizing golf tournaments.

Aaron, teacher, historian, athlete, family man.

Kind, honorable, thoughtful.

Our age gap has diminished,

though I’m still five years behind.

Your many worthy lessons

enlighten, guide my mind.

 

With lots of love,

Your cousin, Lynn

May 5, 2024

All Poems, Change, Family, Holidays, Love, Memories, Prose/memoir, Spouses, Stories, Valentine's Day

Valentine Day’s Story

To Bob

As far back as I remember,
Valentine’s Day has been a big deal.
In school, we exchanged little cards.
Printed on large sheets.
Punched or cut them out.
Signed them.
Stuffed them into tiny envelopes.
With the recipient’s name.
For a Valentine’s box.
The teacher, distributing them.
Along with miniature candies.
Sugary, sweet with endearing messages:
You’re the best. We’re good together.
My children, too, had parties at school.
Made cards for classmates.
I amplified the merriment at home.
Decorating windows, doors with cut-outs.
Construction paper hearts.
Every color, size.
My children always knowing when Cupid’s Day,  on its way.
Often, I made a party as well.
Heart shaped cakes, cookies.
A way to brighten February gloom.
Now my children, grown.
It’s up to them with theirs.
I often send a note, stickers to the littles ones.
Though you and I stopped exchanging store bought cards.
Who wants an anonymous canned line of verse?
Just to trash the next day?
But nothing, nothing can stifle
the rush I get on Valentine’s Day.
Even without cards, decorations, cookies, chocolates.
Something about it melts the frost.
Brings fire to my cheeks.
Fills me with passion.
For you, our children, grandchildren.
For our parents, theirs.
That’s the thing about a Valentine.
It stretches.
Reaches.
Expands.
Spills with affection.
Backwards and forwards.
That’s what I love about it.
About you.

Lynn Benjamin
February 14, 2022

 

All Poems, Career, Change, Emotions, Family, Humor, Memories, Pandemic, People Traits, Prose/memoir, Spouses, Stories

Waiting for Dr. Benjamin

 

Likely, most people have had to wait.
In lines at check-out.
For a bus.
A train.
A plane.
I, too, have had my share of waiting.
Registration lines in college pre-internet.
Gas lines in the seventies.
Six hour windows for repair people.
Labyrinthine phone menus.
Dropped calls that require starting from scratch.
Days for news of lab results.
With all this practice, I should have been expert at waiting.
But I never mastered it.
Which is too bad because I had hundreds more hours to wait.
Just being a doctor’s wife.
Hospitals claimed Dr. Benjamin’s time.
Schedules were never regular, consistent.
One more hour.
Two.
Then an urgent situation having to be dealt with.
At home, on vacation, the beeper, ringing.
He, pulled away, at the very least, to return the call.
Or, to double back to the hospital.
See a patient in the office.
In time, cell phones replaced beepers.
Patients, hospital staff texted, called.
At all hours.
A business phone sat by our bed.
Ringing all night with emergencies.
Forty-five years, I waited.
To have Bob for myself, for the family.
Respecting his oath to help others.
Picking up pieces while he tended the needy.
Most of the time, I was fine.
Accommodating to that life style.
Expecting it.
Having lots to do while I waited.
But, I wasn’t a saint.
Sometimes, out of the blue, flashed resentment,
jealousy, disappointment, hurt.
I worked through it.
Venting.
Writing.
Kneading bread.
With retirement, emergencies ceased.
Free to be together without interruptions.
Theater.
Concerts.
Shows.
Restaurants.
Till the pandemic hit.
Then, both of us waiting.
For information.
Groceries.
Deliveries.
Life as we knew it, on hold.
Irritating delays for service grew interminable.
Bob called to reinstate his global entry card.
Continuously.
Endlessly.
Unsuccessfully.
Lingering in waiting mode two years!
I saw, felt his upset, agitation.
I, a long-suffering waiter, empathized completely.
After all, who likes to wait?

Lynn Benjamin
December 28, 2021

All Poems, Children, For Children, Health/Illness, Humor, Memories, Pandemic, Prose/memoir, Stories

Who Wants to Wade in Masks?

 

Today looks more like Fall than yesterday.
More leaves, yellow, red.
More underfoot.
The crunch draws my eyes to the ground.
Scattered with  masks lost, fallen, forgotten.
I remember teaching my children not to litter.
I used to read them a lyrical book.
Discouraging them from tossing chewing gum, wrappers, sucker sticks onto streets, playgrounds.
The little ones repeated the title
as they dropped trash into receptacles:
Who Wants a Pop Can Park?
Two decades later, a movement grew.
Ensuring that pet owners would scoop their dogs’ poop.
Sidewalks began to reflect efforts to tidy up!
But now, in the wake of Covid, mask mandates, we have a new kind of litter:
masks!
On curbs, in parking lots, roads.
Disposables, cotton, silk, even KN95’s.
White, black, patterned, floral.
What would a child’s rhyme on litter say today?

To prevent the spread of Covid,
cover mouth, nose with a mask.
Store it in a pocket, purse.
Wash it to make it last.

Or attach your mask to a chain.
Jewelry to bedeck.
When not in use, the mask
hangs around your neck!

But whatever you do, don’t drop it.
Don’t leave it strewn about.
Or, all of us will wade in masks,
stuck, unable to get out!

Lynn Benjamin
October 14, 2021

Aging, All Poems, Career, Family, Food, Humor, Prose/memoir, Spouses, Stories

Wonder Ware

 

I never dreamed  after fifty years,
I would still have my Wonder Ware cookware.
Yet, there it resides in my cupboard.
Sauce pan, fry pan, soup pot, double boiler,
Dutch oven.
Everyday necessities still offering expertise.
Stainless steel.
Waterless.
Even conductors.
Unscratched.
Shiny.
The only part rebelling from time to time, the handle.
From active use, sometimes unscrewing, jiggling.
Enough that I worry the pot might fall, splatter
vegetables onto the floor.
Although, truth be told, that never happened.
Not once.
Not even when the handle wiggled.
Is your curiosity piqued?
Do you question where I got this line of cookware?
Likely, you don’t know the name.
Especially because it’s no longer manufactured.
Well, the story goes like this…..
My husband just finished his second year of college.
He needed a summer job to earn enough to buy an
engagement ring.
He and his roommate each took sales positions at
rival pot companies.
Not weed, cook ware!
Thus, began Bob’s first career as a salesman.
Contrary to expectation, given he was a pre-med student,
he was wildly successful.
He sold so many sets of pots, he earned a steak knife set.
An all-expenses paid trip to Bermuda.
Money to purchase a ring.
Enough to buy a Corvair.
And, of course, the pots themselves.
The most valuable aspect of owning these pots,
their lifetime warranty.
If anything happened to them, any nick, scratch, ding,
they would be replaced at no charge.
I was pretty ho hum about it at the time for a number of reasons.
They sat in a closet for two years prior to our wedding.
I had no idea how to cook.
Nor did I have a jot of interest in cooking.
I was a student, scholar, soon-to-be teacher,
and grad student.
My life was full without simmering, boiling, frying.
But after our honeymoon, I was forced to face those pots.
Bob was studying medicine, and soon would begin
long hours of internships.
By default, I became the cook.
My romance with cooking started.
Making carrots in Wonder Ware.
Take a carrot.
Peel it.
Slice it into rounds.
Add the teeniest amount of water to the pot.
Pop the carrot slices in.
Put on low heat for about 15 minutes.
Voilà! Transformation!
Crunchy to soft, but not mushy.
Still a beautiful shade of orange.
A burst of carrot flavor.
A miracle! my first thought.
Sensuous! my second.
Instantly, I understood why it was called Wonder Ware.
Unlike my mother’s old pitted aluminum pots,
these did their job with less water.
Retaining more flavor, more vitamins.
Wonder Ware became my partner, a beacon of inspiration.
It secretly taught me to cook.
I kept pots and pans close at hand.
Around twenty-five years in, I invoked
the warranty because of a pesky loose handle
or two on my most used pots.
No problem.
Call the number.
Send a check for postage.
Handles, shipped immediately.
At no charge.
We hummed along another twenty-five years.
Until yesterday.
Wonder ware, purchased by Regal.
But still no problem.
Regal would honor the warranty as long as we
were original owners.
My husband, now a retired psychiatrist, boasted
on the phone, not only was he the original
owner, but he was an original salesman.
The representative and he laughed.
She heartily agreed to send him four handles
at no charge other than $11 shipping.
So our Wonder Ware will continue.
Thrive many more years.
Serve us. Serve me.
Warranty still in place.
Likely outlive us.
So if you find our Wonder Ware pots
one day, in a closet nested,
know there exist spare handles.
The ones we just requested.
And though quite along in years now,
desirable, in every way.
Sparkling, strong imaginative.
Seasoned in recipes gourmet!

Lynn Benjamin
November 25, 2021

 

Adult Children, All Poems, Beaches, Family, Farewell, Grandchildren, Memories, Prose/memoir, Santa Monica 10/21, Trips and Places

Yesterday, My Feet Bade Farewell, To Dan & Ozzie

 

Yesterday, my feet bade farewell to Santa Monica.
My son and his, tucked in a backpack,
walking toward Pacific Palisades.
By water’s edge on a late Saturday afternoon.
Broad beach, mostly empty of bathers except for a mother and son.
Flying a green kite tethered to a cart.
Cool breezes.
Warm sunshine.
Packed sand, easy tread.
Tidepools, sandbars.
Kelp, a few stones, even fewer shells.
An occasional small plane, helicopter overhead.
And, of course, crashing waves.
Perfect score for Ezzie’s hundred and one questions:
What is seaweed?
Why is it on the shore?
Why do clams have shells?
How do kites fly?
What do birds eat?
So, it went.
One more last.
Snippets of conversations, explanations, observations burrowing into my consciousness.
I promise I’ll remember the scene with toes, fingers, eyes, ears.
Will you remember it, too?

Lynn Benjamin
October 10, 2021

Aging, All Poems, Homages, Humor, Prose/memoir, Stories

The Universe Zeroes in on Universal Life (To Milton Drennen)

 

The universe often delivers messages in strange ways.
Yesterday, it was an unsolicited call on my cellphone.
The ID flashed the name of the universal life insurance vendor.
Who sold us our policy thirty-nine years ago!
Out of nowhere!
After struggling with the company’s clerks for years.
To get up-to-date information.
Correct calculations.
Determinations of whether or not to surrender coverage.
After all, we bought it when our children were young.
Since then, the company changed ownership numerous times.
Novice clerks appeared.
Had trouble accessing information.
Withheld account data without proper authorization.
Refused to relay new policy numbers.
Sent letters to a former address.
Calls, correspondence with them was a child’s circle game.
Then, randomly, materialized the agent.
The one who originally sold it to us.
Still working, though older than we, and not well.
His finger on the pulse of all transactions, letters back and forth.
Able to give us facts, figures.
Even advice.
Counsel he’d give his own siblings, he said.
Surrender the policies now before they expire.
A heaven-sent suggestion.
Validation of a plan considered.
But his voice called us to action.
To fill out, sign, mail necessary papers.
Done!
By our reckoning, there should be enough money.
Enough to cover burial expenses for two.

Lynn Benjamin
November 4, 2021

All Poems, Art/Arts, Homages, Hope, Prose/memoir, Stories, Thank-You

Three Artisans

 

Yesterday restored me.
Reminded me that art, goodness, honor,
still reside in this world.
If fortunate, they may coincide
like three suns to brighten a tiny corner
of this oft dark, unpredictable road we journey on.
The stars aligned to bring rain.
For if it weren’t for showers,
the job of transformation in my house
would have been postponed.
In only hours, three brothers
performed cosmetic surgery on two ceilings,
ravished by water from an upstairs tub.
The gaping hole, left by the plumber,
in the dining room looked raw, ugly.
Maybe unfixable in our high crown mold ceiling.
While damage to the basement also needed lancing, repair.
Watching them work with confidence,
experience, conjured images of artisans from a bygone era.
Carrying knowledge of re-creation
in hands, arms, hearts.
For by the time they completed the job,
no one would have even guessed anything  amiss.
Perfection!
But also, their own joy, satisfaction, authentic offering to make the broken whole.
How does it happen that workmanship, humility, empathy, kindness, cooperation synchronize?
Honorable parents?
Shared vision?
Genetic resources?
Maybe these and other possibilities still unsung.
I only know that more than two ceilings were
rehabilitated a day ago.
I wonder if these craftsmen know their artistry revitalizes faith as well as walls.
Is it their secret?
Or, does it yet hide unrevealed beneath a coat of paint?

Lynn Benjamin
October 30, 2021