Strange how roles reverse over time.
My daughter, as young teen, not interested in clothing.
Unwilling to shop.
Dress up.
Even for her own Bat Mitzvah.
To which she wore a simple cotton outfit.
Which got me in trouble.
With her grandmother, the rabbi.
Who both lobbied for organza or lace.
Now an adult, my daughter has taste.
In shoes, bags, jackets, dresses.
Always looks her best.
At holidays, graduations, theater debuts.
Apparently, while traveling.
For we are heading to Maine.
Bob, Roseanne and I.
A state I’ve never been to.
My suitcase packed with hiking gear, tee-shirts.
Mom, my daughter said, I brought dresses. For dinners.
In response, I enumerated my casual wardrobe.
Mommmmm, she intoned, stretching the m.
Pack something good. Something for a fancy dinner.
Just one button down blouse, she cajoled.
I stood firm.
Feeling the adolescent fire up in me.
I’m taking a bra, I said.
Something, I rarely use these days.
Earrings, lipstick. It’s enough.
I didn’t stamp my foot.
But, I imagined doing it.
Taking ten minutes to concede.
Like a kid, I stuffed a blouse into an already crammed case.
Wondering how many years it would take for me to become eight.
Then four.
In relation to my daughter’s mounting age.
I’m on my way to second childhood
while my child, parental, wise.
I hope she knows it will happen to her
when her daughter starts to advise.
So, my recommendation to her
whilst I still have wits to prize,
is: treat you mother with compassion.
Be kind and empathize!
Lynn Benjamin
August 8, 2023